Speak logically. Channel your inner Spock and try to have conversations that express absolutely nothing about how you are feeling. For example, if you're out to dinner and someone asks how your burger is, tell them it is medium rare and a little greasy.
Do not say it is delicious or gross, even if it is. Just state the facts. If you are asked a question about how you're feeling or something that can't be answered with facts, your best bet is to avoid the question by asking a question back.
You can also try giving a vague or ambiguous response. Keep an even tone. Watch the pace and pitch of your words. Raising your pitch can be an indication of excitement or agitation.
Dropping your pitch and speaking more slowly can seem like you're uncertain or upset. Try to speak as though you are reading an instruction manual out loud. Dull, informative and without originality will go a long way to keeping your conversations low-key. Don't use emotional words. Many words express emotions. Some are very obvious, while others express more subtle emotions.
While it's obvious you don't want to say you're sad or happy, you also should not say you're determined, calm or indecisive. These words express just as much of your emotional state. Avoid using adjectives to describe words that will reveal your feelings.
Don't say a movie was exciting or romantic. Instead, describe the film as action-packed or dramatic. Part 3 of Don't hang out with emotional people too much. People that are very emotional can draw you into their drama and make it difficult to be totally emotionless. You don't need to cut anyone out of your life completely, but you may want to limit your contact with your more emotional friends.
Simply tell them you have to go return some videos or something along those lines. Learn to accept things. A big part of looking emotionless is to not let anything bother you. Once you come to realize that you didn't have the power to change most of the things anyway, they might not bother you so much.
If you can give up trying to control things that happen, you will have an easier time accepting it when things don't go as expected. Desensitize yourself. Watching violent television shows or movies is the way most people desensitize themselves. While this is often debated as being harmful, evidence shows that watching violent shows can make viewers apathetic to human pain and suffering. Look at money often.
It may sound silly but looking at money tends to make people act more businesslike. Find an outlet for your emotions. No matter how good you get at keeping everything inside, sometimes you will need to release all the emotions.
Writing or playing music is a good way to get out emotional pressures, while other people may find getting out their frustrations by kickboxing works better. It doesn't matter what activity you choose as long as you can release any anxiety you have on your own terms instead of having a sudden meltdown in front of everyone.
How do you resist anger, crying, and smiling and laughing at the most difficult times? Just focus on a single thing, like an object in the room that has nothing to do with whatever is triggering the emotion and tune out everything else. Do this until you have found your center again. Not Helpful 21 Helpful What if I'm totally fine but my friends say I look sad, and even after I say I'm fine, they keep bothering me about it? Just say, "Seriously, I'm fine.
This figure illustrates the major assertions of the James-Lange, Cannon-Bard, and Schachter-Singer two-factor theories of emotion. It is important to point out that Schachter and Singer believed that physiological arousal is very similar across the different types of emotions that we experience, and therefore, the cognitive appraisal of the situation is critical to the actual emotion experienced.
To test their idea, Schachter and Singer performed a clever experiment. Male participants were randomly assigned to one of several groups. Some of the participants received injections of epinephrine that caused bodily changes that mimicked the fight-or-flight response of the sympathetic nervous system; however, only some of these men were told to expect these reactions as side effects of the injection.
The other men that received injections of epinephrine were told either that the injection would have no side effects or that it would result in a side effect unrelated to a sympathetic response, such as itching feet or headache. After receiving these injections, participants waited in a room with someone else they thought was another subject in the research project.
In reality, the other person was a confederate of the researcher. When those subjects who were told that they should expect to feel symptoms of physiological arousal were asked about any emotional changes that they had experienced related to either euphoria or anger depending on how their confederate behaved , they reported none. Strong emotional responses are associated with strong physiological arousal.
This has led some to suggest that the signs of physiological arousal, which include increased heart rate, respiration rate, and sweating, might serve as a tool to determine whether someone is telling the truth or not. The assumption is that most of us would show signs of physiological arousal if we were being dishonest with someone.
A polygraph , or lie detector test, measures the physiological arousal of an individual responding to a series of questions. Someone trained in reading these tests would look for answers to questions that are associated with increased levels of arousal as potential signs that the respondent may have been dishonest on those answers. The relationship between our experiencing of emotions and our cognitive processing of them, and the order in which these occur, remains a topic of research and debate.
Lazarus developed the cognitive-mediational theory that asserts our emotions are determined by our appraisal of the stimulus. This appraisal mediates between the stimulus and the emotional response, and it is immediate and often unconscious. In contrast to the Schachter-Singer model, the appraisal precedes a cognitive label. Zajonc asserted that some emotions occur separately from or prior to our cognitive interpretation of them, such as feeling fear in response to an unexpected loud sound Zajonc, He also believed in what we might casually refer to as a gut feeling—that we can experience an instantaneous and unexplainable like or dislike for someone or something Zajonc, LeDoux also views some emotions as requiring no cognition: some emotions completely bypass contextual interpretation.
A fear stimulus is processed by the brain through one of two paths: from the thalamus where it is perceived directly to the amygdala or from the thalamus through the cortex and then to the amygdala. The first path is quick, while the second enables more processing about details of the stimulus. In the following section, we will look more closely at the neuroscience of emotional response.
Earlier, you learned about the limbic system , which is the area of the brain involved in emotion and memory [link]. The limbic system includes the hypothalamus, thalamus, amygdala, and the hippocampus.
The hypothalamus plays a role in the activation of the sympathetic nervous system that is a part of any given emotional reaction. Liquid Assets is available from Burning Shed - click here to purchase. Ex-Wise Heads third album sees a change in both personnel and musical direction. The original instrumental elements fit seamlessly into a more refined soundscapes, without losing the spontaneous and primal feel of previous releases.
Ten strong, atmospheric tracks and easily the most accessible and ambitious Ex-Wise Heads release to date. Geoff Leigh: Flutes, Soprano Saxophone. Rick Edwards: Congas, various percussion. Recorded and mixed by Colin Edwin at Nightspace Studio during Mended at Play 4. The electronic music on those tracks however, is quite interesting and dynamic, with more complexity than you might expect. The next two tracks, 'Sun Trap' and 'Everything Ends in Darkness' from the album 'Stone to Flesh' are taken from a collaborative effort Barbieri did with Steve Jansen, who he was a band mate with in the 80's band 'Japan'.
I find both of these tracks less interesting. There are more drum loops involved and the tracks are more repetitive with very little development across both 9 minutes and 7 minutes respectively. Colin Edwin, bassist, is the next featured PT musician. The next 3 tracks feature two different groups that he played for.
Following this is a track called 'Demeath' from the band 'Random Noise Generator' from the album of the same name. This features a hard rap against synths and etc with heavy guitar riffs, bass and drums during the choruses. This is the first track with any vocals. It has an Israeli vibe to it with some traditional sounding instruments.
Your mixed feelings come not from the situation itself but your views of justice and fair play. Earlier you identified emotionally with his younger victims; now, curiously, you find yourself identifying with him. So hearing the news of his demise leads you to experience considerable satisfaction and relief, knowing that this cold, manipulative, deceiving sociopath of a father is now out of your life for good.
And these unexpectedly powerful, and totally unwilled, emotions really have nothing to do with his passing but with the irrevocable death of deeply buried hopes and dreams , now unexpectedly resurfacing, that you harbored since childhood for a secure, loving bond with him. Once again, the tension between seemingly incompatible yet co-existent emotions can be understood on the basis of mixed feelings that, given the psychological dynamic giving rise to them, are totally logical.
So yes, undoubtedly—though only rarely with the same intensity—you can feel two different things at the same time. But this is a subject that I believe deserves a post to itself. And if you found this post in any way useful—and believe others you know might as well—please consider forwarding them its link. Seltzer, Ph. All Rights Reserved. Didn't Ralph Waldo Emerson say something aboutt the brains of youths differing from adult brains - in that youths can experience a number of different emotions at one time and so have a better understanding of themselves and that for that reason can be misunderstood, when for example laughing at an incident where someone falls - as they are not laughing at the person's pain but rather at amusement at the nature of the fall, while all the time also feeling sympathy for the person's pain - one emotion doesn't override the other.
Emerson I think it was he went on to say that adults, forced to conceal "inappropriate" emotion tend over time to develop sets of composite emotions - resulting in kinds of a generic reactions, blander reactions which diminsh them. I imagine that a youth's set of emotional reactions is like a wholre range of colourful sticks of plasticine laid side by side, while adults set of emotional reactions are mixtures of colours, resulting in less variation and less brilliance of colour.
Perhaps I misunderstand, or perhaps I am considering the issue from a different direction, but I often have different, sometimes diametrically opposed, emotions about a singular event that I don't believe cause me confusion or ambivalence. For example, I can be both grateful to find an 8-ounce glass with 4 ounces of beverage, because I am thirsty, yet be disappointed that it does not contain the full 8 ounces, because I need more to produce satiety.
Technically speaking, having these two simultaneous, conflicting reactions constitutes ambivalence, but by definition ambivalence is "experienced as psychologically unpleasant" which can then lead to avoidance or procrastination. In relation to the glass of beverage, I can choose to be more disappointed than grateful, or vice versa, which will determine whether my overall outlook on the object is positive or negative, but whether I choose gratitude or disappointment is not based on the conflicting emotions, but rather my choice to feel more strongly about one or the other.
Nor does choosing one over the other produce avoidance or procrastination. Being a realist, if I am thirsty, I will gratefully drink the 4 ounces of beverage unless it's not consumable for some reason and if I remain in physical distress from thirst, I will scan my environment for more, realizing that further lamentation that the glass was not full will not reduce my thirst.
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